Spectrum Life, Banking and Loosening the Apron Strings

Last month, Aaron discovered his bank card wasn’t working. I called his bank and was assured his new card would be mailed by the end of December. I forgot about this issue until earlier this week. Aaron came to me and told me his card hadn’t been delivered to our home. Again, I told him…

Autism, ADHD, and the African American Community

Oftentimes, in the African American community, we hear the words “Autism” and “ADHD” and immediately negative images come to mind. As a mental health professional and the mom of 2 amazing sons, one of whom has autism and the other has ADHD, part of my life’s work is to show there are other facets of…

Dr. Who, Autism and Aaron

Paul tried to prepare me for my oldest son, Aaron’s, Christmas gift. The only clue he would give me is, “You guys have had a conversation about it.” Christmas Day came. Every gift I received was beyond thoughtful; this was probably the best Christmas I have ever had. I saw Aaron looking Paul’s way. Then…

PS5, Autism, and Teamwork

Most young folks love video games. But being isolated or less social because of COVID 19 has intensified the love and desire to play them. Aaron is no different. When he was laid off earlier this year, we were concerned as a family he would be isolated and as a result, experience emotional issues. The…

Confessions of an Autism/ADHD Mom

Since 1996, when my oldest son initially lost his ability to speak, I became a case manager of sorts: monitoring, linking, and ensuring that Aaron has what he needs to be happy and productive. When I became pregnant for the second time, I prayed for a “normal” child, one that would not experience so many…

Ham Steaks and Independence- Life Inside A Spectrum Family

I walked by my kitchen sink Thursday morning and spotted the usual item lying within it: a frozen ham steak. I smiled and kept walking. A little later I went back and snapped a pic. While many may look at this piece of meat and see just that, a piece of delicious pork, I see…

Special Needs Parent Appreciation Month

August is Special Needs Parent Appreciation Month. I would like to take this opportunity to shout out my hubby Paul Pruden Jr for being a great special needs parent. He’s not a perfect guy or a perfect parent. That’s not what this post is about. Team Pruden has had to contend with 2 issues, autism…

Preparation is Key 🔑

On our autism journey, we have learned that preparation is a key component to success. I asked Aaron to do a little grocery shopping today. Over time, we have developed a game plan to help Aaron have successful community outings. In this instance, Aaron’s grocery shopping was successful because we were able to: ✅ Create…

Structure in an Autism Family

Upon first glance, this looks like any shelf you may see in any laundry room. But if you look closer, there is an order here that works for Team Pruden. Early on, we learned that in order for Aaron to live a more peaceful environment, life had to be predictable. I know, life has surprises.…

Aaron Pays A Bill!

Last Friday, Aaron got a true taste of adulthood: he paid his very first bill! Aaron has been working for 6 months now. Although this is not his first job, this job is significant because he is maturing and learning more independent living skills, like paying bills. If possible, persons on the autism spectrum should…