Stop Killing Us

We’d been talking about it since March. Then a few days ago, Moo and I read the same articles: Police were being denied vacation time in Louisville. “You know what’s about to pop off don’t you Moo?” I asked him. He replied. “Yep. Plus they gave her family all that money. It’s about to get…

Autism, ADHD, and Us

The other day, my youngest son, Bryant, and I were talking. Out of the blue, he asked me, “Ma, did you ever think you would ever have 2 neurodiverse kids?” Neurodiverse is defined as a “ variation in the human brain regarding sociability, learning, attention, and other mental functions.” My oldest son, Aaron, has Aspergers,…

Special Needs Parent Appreciation Month

August is Special Needs Parent Appreciation Month. I would like to take this opportunity to shout out my hubby Paul Pruden Jr for being a great special needs parent. He’s not a perfect guy or a perfect parent. That’s not what this post is about. Team Pruden has had to contend with 2 issues, autism…

Autism Advocacy

Do the terms “IEP”, “504 Plan, “Reasonable Accomodations”, or other special education terms cause you anxiety? I totally understand. As an autism parent, I remember the days of anxiety before IEP meetings. I remember doing as much research as I could to ensure my son Aaron received every possible resource available in school. My experiences…

Preparation is Key 🔑

On our autism journey, we have learned that preparation is a key component to success. I asked Aaron to do a little grocery shopping today. Over time, we have developed a game plan to help Aaron have successful community outings. In this instance, Aaron’s grocery shopping was successful because we were able to: ✅ Create…

Structure in an Autism Family

Upon first glance, this looks like any shelf you may see in any laundry room. But if you look closer, there is an order here that works for Team Pruden. Early on, we learned that in order for Aaron to live a more peaceful environment, life had to be predictable. I know, life has surprises.…

Create Your Village and Go!

I often refer to my family as a team. People have wondered aloud to me, “I don’t see you guys socialize with a lot of folks.” If I surmise that the inquiring person is not being sarcastic (because sometimes people are), I explain our decision. Early on in Aaron’s life, while we were met with…

Find Your Village

For fellow autism parents with more than one child…. Most folks know the story, but for those that don’t… My second son, Moo, is my faith baby. I was scared to death when I found out I was pregnant with him. I didn’t think I would be able to give him the attention he needed…

Celebrate Every Victory

Paul and I saw this building in downtown Norfolk, Va, this past weekend. I looked at him and asked, “Isn’t this Spaghetti Warehouse?” Paul smiled and replied, “Yes it is.” Travel down memory lane with me 🕰…. Its the late 90s. My younger brother Dexter recently graduated from THE Elizabeth City State University and was…

We’re Just Tired

Today was “leg day” for my sons and I. We have been home together for weeks now. We decided to make good use of our time by working out together. My youngest son, Bryant, is the current athlete in our home, so we have been deferring to him for guidance on which exercises would benefit…